A while ago, I posted on social media that I would help men get dates or find relationships by cleaning up their dating profile and helping with initial messages for $500. My one rule was that you have to be open to brutally honest feedback. I was half joking, but several guys took me up on the offer.
What If Men Just Had Better Dating Advice?
The Results
Of those guys, one is now married, one is engaged, and two are in serious relationships. Another guy who ended up meeting a girl outside of my direct coaching, but after we had discussed some tips, recently DMed me to tell me he's been in a relationship for over a year and is planning to propose.
The Real Problem
I sometimes wonder how much of the singlehood epidemic is just men who don't have even one close female friend or relative who will help them understand how women think and how to talk to women. It's not that these guys were hopeless. They just needed honest perspective from someone willing to tell them what was actually working against them.
Here's the thing: how you deliver a message matters just as much as what you're saying. The same words can land completely differently depending on tone, timing, and framing. That applies to dating profiles and first messages just as much as it does to business communication.
A Missed Opportunity
Honestly, I wish I had more time to devote to this. I believe there's a serious business opportunity for someone who does. The demand is clearly there, and the results speak for themselves.
Key Takeaways
Sometimes people just need one person willing to give them honest, constructive feedback. Five guys, five success stories. The common thread wasn't some complicated system. It was simply getting a female perspective on what was and wasn't working.
If you're struggling with dating, consider finding someone, whether a friend, family member, or coach, who will give you that brutally honest feedback you need.
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